He is quoted in the Guardian today: "If women liked sex as much as men, there would be straight cruising areas in the way there are gay cruising areas.”
Of course this is rubbish, as Rosie Boycott (what a wonderful name for a feminist!), said:
“Women are just as capable as men are of enjoying sex. We don't go cruising or cottaging on Hampstead Heath because we don't need to. Cottaging on Hampstead Heath is presumably a hangover from the days when, sadly, [homosexuality] was illegal…”
However, I would add to – or rather amend – Rosie’s argument.
Women do not ‘need to’ any more or any less than men do. Women do not enjoy sex any less or more than men. We are all individuals. There is no scientific evidence to show that there is a gender difference in enjoyment or need.
This is not about enjoyment or need; it is about power and tradition.
Women do not go cottaging for men on Hampstead Heath because:
- Women fear physical violence (a way that some men control women; it rarely happens the other way round).
- There are few men willing put themselves in the vulnerable position of allowing women to completely dominate them sexually; in other words, the men just wouldn’t be there waiting on the heath.
- Women’s enjoyment of sex has traditionally been a taboo; women have not been vocal about it and have been condemned (called a slut, for example) if they have. Women have also traditionally been kept strictly inside the home; so there is no history of their venturing out to the heath.